Gaming the Behavioral Interview System: The Neurodivergent Cheat Code

Spilling the Tea: Insights from an Insider Who’s Designed Behavioral Interview Guides and Trainings

Ever stared at a job posting and thought, are they hiring a human or a Marvel superhero? You’re not alone.

I’ve designed behavioral interview guides (and trainings) that roll up to cultural behaviors. I’ve asked these questions. I’ve coached hiring managers on deciding who gets hired and who doesn’t. And now, I’m here to spill the tea.

Because the truth is, behavioral interviews aren’t about finding the best candidate—they’re about finding the best storyteller who can frame their experiences in a way that checks all the boxes.

And those boxes? They aren’t always fair.

The Hidden Bias in Behavioral Interviews: "Fit the Culture"

Employers design behavioral interviews to assess key competencies that predict workplace success. At the core, they are looking for learning agility, teamwork and collaboration, technical acumen, problem-solving, and communication.

• Learning agility measures how quickly and effectively you can adapt to new challenges and environments.

• Teamwork and collaboration assess how well you work with others, navigate group dynamics, and contribute to shared goals.

• Technical acumen evaluates your ability to apply knowledge, tools, or specialized skills relevant to the role.

• Problem-solving reflects how you approach complex challenges, think critically, and drive solutions. Communication is about how well you convey ideas, actively listen, and ensure clarity across different audiences.

When you look under the qualifications section of a job posting, you will typically see a list of core competencies that align with cultural values and behaviors. (or not, and that’s a whole separate topic) Use that as a gold mine to prepare for your next interview. And if you see the words “thrives in a fast-paced environment”…run for the hills.. it is 3 jobs in one! (just kidding, kind of)

On paper, these competencies make sense. The problem? Behavioral interviews aren’t always about whether you actually have these skills—they’re about whether you can package them in a way that matches corporate expectations.

• They say they want collaborators but reward the loudest voice in the room.

• They claim to want innovators, but only if you color inside their rigid lines.

• They insist they seek diverse perspectives, but only if they’re framed in a way that doesn’t make them uncomfortable.

  
  

Meanwhile, you’re expected to:

• Speak in polished, neurotypical-friendly STAR responses.

• Show that you handle conflict in a way that aligns with their culture—even if their culture is broken.

• Demonstrate adaptability—but not in ways that challenge the status quo.

  
  

As someone who has designed these guides, I’ve had to ask myself: Was the point to trip people up?

Honestly? Not intentionally. They are typically designed to have a fair and structured interview process, and to guide hiring managers on questions they should ask and then probe further. But the system is built to favor those who can conform to an unspoken script. That’s why neurodivergent candidates—who process, problem-solve, and communicate differently—often struggle.

So, let’s flip the script.

The Behavioral Interview Hack: STAR, But Make It Neurodivergent-Friendly

Most companies use the STAR method (Situation, Task, Action, Result) to structure behavioral interviews. But for neurodivergents, this can be a nightmare:

• Recalling a specific past situation? Brain goes blank.

• Describing a linear story? Our brains don’t work that way.

• Adapting on the spot? Cue buffering.

So, let’s tweak STAR to actually work for your brain.

"Tell me about a time you had a disagreement with a coworker."

Why they ask: They want to know if you’re a drama magnet or if you can handle conflict like an adult.

Common neurodivergent struggle: Conflict can be overwhelming. Either you forget every disagreement you’ve ever had, or you worry about sounding too blunt when explaining it.

Hacked STAR Response:

• Situation: "I was working on [X project] when I noticed [coworker’s approach] might cause [process issue]." (Keep it about the business)

• Task: "I needed to express my concerns in a way that didn’t cause tension."

• Action: "I used [strategy: written communication, neutral wording, compromise, asking clarifying questions]."

• Result: "We adjusted our approach, and the project succeeded."

If you struggle with working memory like many neurodivergents do, prewrite two or three examples before your interview and keep them in a document. It’s not cheating—it’s strategy.

"Tell me about a time you solved a complex problem."

Why they ask: They want to know if you freeze in the face of chaos or thrive under pressure.

Common neurodivergent struggle: Our problem-solving often doesn’t follow a linear path, which can be hard to verbalize.

Hacked STAR Response:

• Situation: "We had [big challenge] that required a creative solution."

• Task: "I needed to figure out [goal] without [common roadblock]."

• Action: "I approached it by [breaking it into steps, mapping it visually, leveraging a unique insight, partnering with others]."

• Result: "Because of this, we saved [time, money, resources] and improved [key metric]."

If you process visually, draw out your solution before explaining it. If you struggle with breaking things down, use metaphors (e.g., "It was like solving a jigsaw puzzle—first, I found the corners, then filled in the rest.").

“Tell me about a time you had to learn something new quickly."

Why they ask: They want to know if you can handle ambiguity and adapt.

Common neurodivergent struggle: Sometimes we hyperfocus and learn new things instantly—other times, if the information isn’t presented in a way our brain likes, it’s like trying to read a book in an alien language.

Hacked STAR Response:

• Situation: "I was asked to take on [new tool, process] with minimal guidance."

• Task: "I needed to learn it fast to complete [specific task]."

• Action: "I figured it out by [self-teaching, finding alternative learning methods, reverse-engineering it, inquiring with the person who used to handle the task if applicable]."

• Result: "I became the go-to person for it and even improved [specific aspect]."

If you have a unique learning style (e.g., you learn by doing, watching, or taking things apart), weave that into your response to show how you process information differently—but effectively.

Final Boss Level: Play to Your Strengths

• Scripting your answers is not cheating—it’s preparation.

• Use your natural problem-solving style (e.g., analogies, visuals, pattern recognition) as a strength.

• If a question is vague, ask for clarification ("Would you like an example from my current role or a past one?").

• If you need accommodations, advocate for them ("Can I have the questions in advance to better prepare for the interview?").

This System Wasn’t Built for You—But You Can Still Win

Behavioral interviews aren’t about proving your worth—they’re about learning how to speak their language while staying true to how your brain works.

Because you aren’t broken.

The system just wasn’t built for you.

But now?

You’ve got the cheat codes.

What’s Next?

Have you ever struggled with a behavioral interview? Drop your wildest interview moment below or DM me. (I have some pretty fun stories I am looking forward to sharing over time)

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